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Calm

 A friend sent a brief message to me last week. It was “a wish for calm.” He knows that I am going through a challenging time as a caregiver and I can think of no better wish than for calm to wash over me and the person I’m assisting. I responded that I perhaps should wish for “stoicism” also.

In times like these, the day-to-day distractions become ever more dear. Keeping the backyard bird feeders filled has become a veritable obsession that pays off, on occasion, with dozens of birds crowding two feeders, the ground, and a birdbath. Hummingbird feeders hang ready but there have only been a few sightings here in mid-April. Docile mourning doves predominate. When I come out to refresh the feeders, I see the doves sitting in the branches of the trees beyond the fence, watching and softly cooing.

The cardinals seem to prefer to visit in early morning and dusk. Two cardinal couples are around daily, and occasionally others will join in.

Spring happened fast this year. Suddenly, everything was green and lush. There has been no time to work in the flower beds, but perennials have popped up and winter pansies are hanging on until warmer weather settles in for the season. Easter came along faster than the Easter lilies this year. My mother has two patches of Easter lilies that look like they don’t plan to bloom for a while. The winter view down into Oxmoor Valley is now hidden by the curtain of green.

My life-long monitoring of the bird activity was heightened by the months of pandemic. Indeed, my whole endurance of another home-bound time of life was prepared, perhaps, by the pandemic experience. One of the few online sites that I follow is “Diary of a Gen-X Traveler” in which a midwestern couple shares their experiences as European travelers – primarily in Greece and Italy. During the pandemic, they shared adventures hiking and walking around places near their home in Iowa. The freshness of those takes on everyday things made the pandemic posts as interesting to me as the spectacular continental sights that they usually shared.

More recently, I look forward to three weekly posts by Garrison Keillor on his “Garrison Keillor and Friends” website. At eighty going on eighty-one, Keillor seems to be awestruck by his age. He has become assertively cheerful in extolling daily life in Manhattan and in his travels for solo performances across the United States. A proud Democrat, he finds common bonds across party lines and beyond the trivia of the “red state / blue state” dichotomy. His is a fresh wisdom nurtured through years of astute empathy and observation and he never fails to make me smile and sometimes laugh heartily.

My endurance of the news of the day has finally waned and whole days go by without the television being turned on. I keep up, more or less, in magazines and online and try to stave off the existential dread that will dominate the rest of the year. Reading is, as always, my favorite escape and even if I read about troubling things, there is solace in sitting with a book or magazine close at hand.

In addition to calm stoicism, I strive also for “comfort and joy” – a favorite phrase from “God Rest Ye Merry, Gentlemen,” a favorite Christmas song. Really, who could wish for more in their life than to have comfort and joy? Just to be clear, I don’t base my life on upbeat Christmas carol lyrics; another favorite Christmas lyric is Christina Rosetti’s “In the Bleak Midwinter,” which paints a cold and grim picture of the nativity.

Today, the tidings of joy make way for the promise of summer and hope for calm, peace, and justice to come.

A Poem for New Year’s Day

Professional Southerner

Sometime in the ’90s I decided that trying to have fun and frivolity in a crowd of intoxicated people on New Year’s Eve was a fool’s errand. Instead, I stay home on New Year’s Eve and invite friends over for a hearty lunch of Southern good luck staples on New Year’s Day. The menu changes, but it always involves pork, greens, black-eyed peas, cornbread, and an ambrosia.

On New Year’s Day of 2014, instead of a traditional toast, I decided to launch the meal with a favorite poem by American poet Richard Tillinghast, who is from Memphis but has lived in Ireland for many years. I think “Table” is a fitting way to launch a new year full of hope and possibilities. For New Year’s Day 2015, I want to share it with you. May your table be full and steady. Happy New Year.


Table
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Books for the New Year

Two of my recent book reviews have just been published on the Alabama Writers’ Forum website (www.writersforum.org). Fight Songs by Ed Cotton is particularly appropriate on the day of the NCAA college football championship game.

https://www.writersforum.org/news_and_reviews/review_archives.html/article/2022/01/10/fight-songs

Hank Lazer’s field recordings   of mind    in morning is a contemplative book of poems which asserts that “living now / must be / elegiac.” The book is accompanied by music by Holland Hopson.

https://www.writersforum.org/news_and_reviews/review_archives.html/article/2022/01/10/field-recordings-of-mind-in-morning

 

 

Camellia

Everything that’s going on now is causing me a lot of stress — from online instruction, to parental care, to day-to-day activity, to taking care of oneself. When I got home tonight, my camellia bush — which has been a dud since I planted it two years ago — suddenly had burst forth. I choose to see this as a sign of hope.

Take care of yourself. We’ll meet up on the other side.

Another Roadside Attraction: The Corn Palace

dscn0653  When I was growing up, we didn’t often travel too far from home. There were picnics and day trips but most excursions were of short distance and duration. I mostly grew up in Birmingham but when Dad’s work began to transfer us fairly regularly we moved around a lot; most of the moves were fairly close to home: Jackson, Nashville, Tuscaloosa.

The lengthier vacations were usually to Panama City, Florida, on the Gulf. My Journey grandparents had a fishing cottage on the Black Warrior River in Walker County, not far from Birmingham, and my Harbison grandparents had a weekend place on their farm land in Cullman County near Smith Lake, about an hour away. There were occasional trips to New Orleans, Atlanta. Montgomery, and we often went on overnight business trips with Dad to nearby towns. The bulk of the travel was within a 350-mile radius of wherever we lived at the time.

I wasn’t widely-travelled, but I had limitless wanderlust. In that heyday of magazines, my family’s magazine rack was always full. I was a voracious reader from an early age and I would read anything in the house from cover to cover whether it matched my interests or not. My Granddaddy Harbison raised hunting hounds and subscribed to The Hunter’s Horn, a magazine about hunting and hounds; I avidly read that also, even though I had no interest in hunting and my only hound was a pet beagle named Spotty with an ear-splitting bark back when I was in elementary school.

Any book was fair game. I was lucky enough to have parents who encouraged and never censored my reading and I attribute much of the success of my education to my reading habits. I would walk in a room and instantly sit with my face buried in a book. My teenage nephew now does much the same with his electronic gadgets and I’m hoping that is enhancing his knowledge the way printed matter enhanced mine.

In every magazine I read, I was particularly attentive to the travel ads. If there was a coupon to order a travel guide I would carefully clip it and send it to the address that was advertised.

So, even though I wasn’t widely-travelled in my actual life, I would sit for hours and ponder travel guides that took up a full drawer in my bedroom dresser. Through those printed guides I travelled the length and breadth of the country and the world. On my first trip to New York City, friends tried to surprise me by pointing out landmarks and asking if I knew what that building was, what that church or museum was, what park I was entering. I always knew the answer from reading books and magazines and watching movies. It all felt familiar even if I was seeing it live in person for the very first time.

In one 1960s South Dakota travel guide my youthful imagination was captured by an image of something called the “Corn Palace” in Mitchell, South Dakota (www.cornpalace.com). It was a multi-use municipal auditorium such as most communities built in the early twentieth century. What set it apart was its Moorish-style adornment with onion domes and minarets. Most exciting of all was that the Corn Palace sprang from a turn of the century movement of building “crop palaces” throughout the Great Plains. Mitchell’s iteration of this trend was entirely covered with corn murals.

I vowed then and there that if I ever found myself in South Dakota I would have to make a pilgrimage to Mitchell’s Oz-like Corn Palace.

Over time I grew out of my childhood travel guide obsession and eventually cleared my drawers of the books and brochures. Fast forward to 1989 and I am hired by Omaha’s Nebraska Theatre Caravan to stage manage their east coast tour of A Christmas Carol. Even though it was billed as an East Coast tour, our show had to get from Omaha to the East and tour dates were scheduled along the way in South Dakota, Iowa, Illinois, and Ohio. Looking over the itinerary in a phone conversation with one of the Playhouse staff, I was told we would play Mitchell, South Dakota.

I stopped her immediately. “Are we by any chance playing the Corn Palace in Mitchell?” She said we were – did I know the Corn Palace? I told her that indeed I did and that I had planned to visit it for years. She was amused that someone in Alabama had a mission to visit the Corn Palace.

Mitchell was one of our first stops on the tour and we drove there from a gig in tiny Sioux Center, Iowa. We arrived on Mitchell’s main street just at sunrise on a bitterly cold November Sunday morning. I was driving and most of the technical crew in the van was sleeping. I caught a glimpse of sunlight glinting off an onion dome a couple of blocks away and knew that my childhood goal had been reached. I shouted “There it is!” and woke several crew members who did not share my enthusiasm and were annoyed that their sleep was interrupted.

We were early for our load-in and had time to go grab breakfast. But first, one of our tour crew took pictures of me standing in front of the Palace. I know those photos are stored away somewhere but I haven’t been able to find them for years. All I can find are blurred photos of the Palace taken as we were leaving town that night and of a mural inside the auditorium. dscn0656

The Corn Palace continues to be a busy venue, I hear. Our show followed a Barbara Mandrell performance the night before. Mitchell is a small town but the great local crew was I.A.T.S.E. union members and I found out that many of the union guys were also local farmers, at least one of whom provided the corn for the murals. The Palace’s exterior murals have an annual theme which changes each year so the façade of the building takes on a whole new look from year to year.

The crows were having a field day on the façade of the Corn Palace. Our show was on Sunday afternoon and we didn’t spend the night in Mitchell so I spent as much of my break time as I could exploring the unique roadside attraction appeal of the facility and the town.

As we reboarded the crew van and set off for Des Moines, I vowed to return to Mitchell and the Corn Palace some day when I had more time to absorb the unique local vibe. I haven’t returned yet but when friends tell me they’re going anywhere near South Dakota I always implore them to take the detour into Mitchell and gawk at what bills itself as “The World’s Only Corn Palace.” I think their effort will be rewarded.

The Alpha Dog and the Lone Wolf: An Allegory

The Lone Wolf, while exploring the landscape, comes across the Alpha Dog who has recently been deeply wounded and is alone and howling for attention. The Lone Wolf, who instinctively runs alone, approaches the Alpha Dog with caution. There is the usual circling and sniffing and eventually the two begin to tentatively run together. The Lone Wolf goes away for brief stretches but the Alpha pursues him and draws him back in. The Lone Wolf’s natural instinct is to withdraw but as the two continue to run together, a kindred bond develops. The Alpha begins to get stronger and starts to regain his confidence and, with it, his sense of dominance. The Lone Wolf does not challenge the Alpha’s natural dominance. Nor does he succumb to it. The two run together as equals. Occasionally one or the other might bare his teeth, growl, and resist, but for the most part each finds a mutual trust and respect for the other.

As his strength returns, Alpha’s pack begins to slowly reassemble. The Lone Wolf cautiously comes into the edges of Alpha’s pack while still maintaining his distance and independence. The Wolf wants to run with the Alpha Dog but he doesn’t totally trust the pack mentality. The Alpha begins to more aggressively try to assert dominance over the Wolf to maintain his standing in the pack. Most of Alpha’s pack accept Wolf into the group but a few of the weaker ones begin to feel threatened by him. The Wolf runs alongside the Alpha without challenge but the Wolf is strong and Alpha begins to feel challenged nonetheless.

The Alpha and the Wolf continue to circle and sniff at each other. Occasionally they run in peace and freedom and occasionally the Alpha, feeling that his autonomy is threatened, snaps at the Wolf and drives him away. But their paths continue to cross and the chase continues. On occasion, the Wolf is wandering alone and he senses that the Alpha is observing him from the distance. Warily, he begins to ease back in the Alpha’s direction and the Alpha takes him in, only to bare his teeth and drive him away again. This pattern, established, continues. The bond that has been established is strong but the challenges to the natural tendencies of each of the animals always intrude, causing inevitable conflict. The connection is strong. The challenges, on occasion, are stronger.

The Wolf, confused, wanders. He climbs a steep mountain, reaches the peak, and tentatively begins to take steps to the other, less familiar, side. The urge to turn around for one last look is strong. But he doesn’t. He keeps walking down the mountain toward the clearing in the wilderness …